I wrote this yesterday... for my dad. Today would have been my dad's seventy-fifth birthday, and I saved a little something to honor this milestone. I chose today to be the day I would tell you a little bit about my book, Untethered. I expect it to be published this holiday season and am pleased to be working with Balboa Press, a division of Hay House Publishing.
The title, Untethered, came to be about two years ago. I was sharing a pizza and beer with a colleague and good friend after a big meeting with an investor group regarding their interest in my company. My home, my castle, was in the hands of new owners, and my “stuff” packed away into storage. I was living with friends waiting for an apartment to be ready. I was talking about that move. He looked at me sideways, rolled his eyes, and shaking his head, said, “You aren’t moving into that apartment. I don’t know where you are going, but it’s not there. You are untethering from your life.” We ordered another beer, and pondered where my journey would next take me. In that moment, I had no idea where I would end up and for the first time in my life it really didn’t matter. I knew I would be alright.
A tether is a restraint to hold something in place and limit its motion and movement. Tethers can sometimes be used as safety measures, but in all cases they are used to control or contain the limit of something or the potential of something. A long time ago, I created a version of me that was built to survive at any and all costs. I was tough as nails, stubborn, inflexible. I was guarded, and I didn’t trust. I was afraid of sharing my heart or feelings with anyone for fear I would be hurt, because I had been hurt deeply as a child. I manifested these survival mechanisms into workaholic behaviors. I became tethered to this life and set out to do all of things that I thought I was supposed to do.
Until a moment in 2009, when I realized that the life I created to survive was nowhere close to the life I wanted. I made a choice to embark upon a journey to intentionally change the course of my life. While some say there are no certainties in this world, I believe in one: if I hadn’t made the choices I did in 2009, I would not be here today to tell you this story.
My journey over the past five years led me from Durham to Sedona, back to Durham, and a short stint (too short) in Hawaii. Each step of the journey brought me closer to my goal. I then landed in the last place I ever expected… Cleveland. The place where I grew up. I took my final steps of this journey where I took my first steps, and emerged… untethered.
Life is about choices. We string choices together and these form the tenets of life, our circle of friends, our romantic partners, our career paths, and our wellness. You change your choices, you change your life. My hope is that this story may lead you to a choice that takes your life into a place where you experience the unlimited power and beauty of imagination, possibility, and creation. Oh and love… always love!
I am in the throes of edits and rewrites at the moment and have to keep this process moving to make my publishing date. I will be releasing content through this blog and keeping everyone up to date about my progress on the Untethered Facebook page. I am very new to this whole social media thing – so please pardon any clumsiness on my part as I learn my way. It’s always awkward in the beginning!
Finally…. Happy Birthday Daddy! I am proud to be your daughter and honor you with this story. I miss you every day and love you very much